listen

menyenangkan yaa.. saat tau kalau ucapan kita didengar orang lain..

bukan hanya didengar, bahkan diingat, bahkan terus terngiang di hati dan pikirannya..

karena wanita ingin dimengerti.. kya judul lagu ya? he74x..

tapi, bukannya memang pada dasarnya semua orang ingin didengar? ingin dihargai? mendengarkan itu salah satu tanda menghargai bukan? contoh menghargai yang paling sederhana, tapi sering terlupa.. yang sepertinya gampang, padahal sebenarnya sulit.. mendengarkan, tidak sama dengan mendengar.. listen to isn't the same as hear.. mendengarkan, butuh empati, butuh konsentrasi, butuh hati.. sedang mendengar hanya butuh telinga.. apa yang kau dengar, mungkin akan cepat kau lupa.. akan tidak kau pedulikan, tidak kau tunggu kelanjutannya.. tp mendengarkan, larut dalam apa yang didengar, mencoba mengerti, mencoba memahami, mencoba menghargai..

banyak orang yang rela datang ke psikolog, yang biayanya tidak murah, hanya untuk didengarkan.. maka, tidak salah kiranya jika itu dijadikan slogan suatu perusahaan asuransi "Always Listening, Always Understanding".. karena manusia pada dasarnya ingin didengarkan dan dimengerti..dan tanpa sengaja mengetahui bahwa kita didengarkan, benar2 suatu perasaan yang .....

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membanggakan, menyenangkan, mengharukan.. memiliki hormon endorphin yang kuat..
sungguh suatu perasaan yang luar biasa :)

Bona

Bona..

kenapa Bona? suatu kali aku bertanya padamu. selama ini, aku tak bertanya. kupikir, Bona tak ubahnya Bona dan Rong-rong. Bona, si gajah kecil berbelai panjang yang berwarna pink (karena aku tahu kau tahu aku suka pink), dan Rong-Rong, kucing teman setianya. tapi ternyata bukan itu alasanmu..

kau tertawa kecil sebelum menjawab. bukan cuma itu.. emang karena pink, tapi itu juga dari nama kamu, nana.. bo itu klo di sunda kya panggilan kesayangan buat anak kecil gtu.. dulu aa juga suka dipanggil boaa.. gtuu.. bo digabung sama nana, jd bona de.. kamu tersenyum lebar..

akupun tersenyum...

:)

what's sweet

still about "Sakinah Bersamamu".. but this time it's not about the books content.. it's about what's the sweetest from that book..

inside the book, many sweet words that touched my heart.. there's also one part, that storied a mother missed her child that far away from her.. and the child said, "apa yang ambu kangen dari aku?klo ambu kangen kasih sayang aku, sesungguhnya yang ambu kangen adalah Allah.. Allah Ar-Rahman, yang Maha Pengasih.."
"aku tahu cara kita merasa dekat tanpa perlu bertemu.. shalat, ambu.. saat shalat, kita terhubung dengan satu Rabb yang sama, kita sama, walaupun berjauhan.."

but the sweetest thing isn't it.. isn't the words the writer gave.. but you..

because it's from you..
because you've read it before..
because you've left marks there.. signs.. to me :)

thanks, sweetheart.. hope you really mean it.. love you :*

Sakinah Bersamamu

"Kenapa kita menikah, Bang?" tanyaku suatu hari. kau menjawab mantap, tanpa sebersitpun tersirat keraguan "sebab tanpamu, tak ada pernikahan bagiku".

ouch! isn't it sweet? :) 

yesterday, i just finished read a good book, given by my bf, "Sakinah Bersamamu".. it's an interisting book, it's a collections of a short stories, but at the end of every story, the writer gives a kind of advice, good input for the readers, sometimes supports by al-qur'an and hadits too..

the first story was "Rahasia Mas Danu".. it's about a man that has a secret to his wife and always fails to told his wife what it is.. his wife suddenly became paranoid and thought that her husband has an affair or already married with another woman.. she became angry and wanted to get home, back to her parents.. but in fact, she was wrong.. the secret that the husband kept is that..

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he falls in love with her! from a week before they married till that moment.. ouch! so sweet.. i like it :)

second story was "Mata yang Sederhana".. it was about a very simple woman, that has sacrificed too much of her time for her family, till she wasn't pay enough attention at her style, at her looks.. she was so patient and took care her husband very well.. but at some point, her husband became bored.. he wanted an adventure, he wanted to do something crazy.. his friends invited him to go to stripped club, so he went there.. but, suddenly, he remembered his wife and family, then got back home soon.. what nice from this story is that in the end of the story, the husband suddenly realized one thing..

"ini, adalah perempuan yang sama yang kunikahi, bahkan lebih baik karena terlalu banyak masa sulit, dan ia tetap di sisiku. ini adalah perempuan yang menghabiskan kejelitaan, dan kehalusan kulitnya, dalam hari-hari pernikahan yang panjang. Tangannya, adalah tangan penuh kasih, yang pernah kutemui, setelah ibu".

that thought made him cried and he said.. "i love you" .. again :)

the third story, "Ngambek!" what could i say? it's just so meeee, ha74x ;p it was about a wife that "ngambek", but she was upset because her husband didn't pay enough attention and seemed like didn't care, though she has showed many things that she "ngambek" ;p

next, "Dia dalam Mimpi-mimpi Rani".. about a married woman that suddenly dreamed her long friend that so kind to her.. always helped her, alwyas there for her.. he liked her, but she didn't.. they have had being together, but just for one day.. kind of clbk story..

the fifth was "Bahagia Mutiara".. about confusion of a woman that happened to had a reunion with her senior high's friends.. she felt depressed when thought that she has nothing to be proud of.. not a big house, not lots money, not jewerlies.. but she has a happy family.. a husband that loves her so much and four funny childrens.. they respected her so much, and pretended that she's the most beautiful woman in the world (sweet!).. at the reunion, she saw the luxurious and glamorous things everywhere.. but there was something wrong.. among her friends, there was one who divorced, had affairs, had fun with young man.. they were rich but seemed like they were unhappy.. it made she realize, that it was true she wasn't rich but her family has made her rich, her family is so preciuos, more than anything..

next, "Sejuta Kasih".. aah,, it was a good story.. i cried read it.. it was about a kid with the special needs.. she still couldn't talk, though she was 5 yo already in that story.. she never called her mother "ibu".. she dropped so many things, she ruined everything.. her mother often became angry to her.. while her younger sister was so funny and atractive.. she has called her mother "ibu".. it seemed like her mother love her younger sister more.. till one day, the younger sister got sick.. her mother paid lots attention to her sister till she got injured by a car.. it was just a small wound, till three days after it, she became unconcious..it turned out that the car's accident made the wound inside her head.. her mother became very sad, she was so upset that she didn't take care much of her kid..her mother begged that Allah would give her another chance to took care of her.. suddenly, the kid awoke.. quickly, her mother whispered that she loves her so.. then, the kid said "ibbuuu.." for the very first time.. unfortunately, it was also the last time ;( the story taught us to showed our love, as much as we can, to the one we loved, where there is still enough time to do it..

"Ibu Pergi Sebulan" was a story about a woman that avoided a creditman that she asked her son to lied.. said that her mother was sent hometown for a month.. till one day, someone came, that her mother pretend as a creditman.. in fact, it was an employee that wanna tell her mother that she won a 21 inch tv.. but the kid had told lied again, already.. ;p

the word as the prelude of the story was amazing, wasn't it? :)
"Satu Kecupan" told about a woman that had a suspicious to her man.. the woman's head full of the thought that her man was cheated, considering the fact that her man often go to outside town, had so many meeting, and he's handsome! one night, her man called her, like got something very serious to told.. she thought her man will finally said that he was cheating, but the man kissed her and said "aku kangen" instead. sweet!

wanna grow old with you

i wanna make you smile
whenever you're sad
carry you around when your arthritis is bad
all i wanna do, is grow old with you

I'll get you medicine when your tummy aches
Build you a fire if the furnace breaks
So, it could be so nice growing old with you,....

I'll miss you
Kiss you
Give you my coat when you are cold
Need you
Feed you
Even let you hold the remote control.

So let me do the dishes in our kitchen sink
Put you to bed when you've had too much to drink
Oh I could be the man that grows old with you
I wanna grow old with you.

 i wanna grow old with you- adam sandler- ost. the wedding singer

first time i heard this song, it was played at my favourite radio show, mustang rhythm of love.. i instantly love this song.. i love the music, i love the guitar, i love the lyric.. it's simple yet sweet :)

from loving the song, i searched the movie.. a lil bit upset cause the movie wasn't that romantic like i expected.. but i love the ending.. how the man ran away to catched his loved ones, after realized that the man the woman would marry, wasn't good for her and didn't truly love her.. how the man sang the song for the woman to proposed her.. sweet :)

okay.. back to the song.. why i love it.. hmm.. because the simpleness.. the little thing.. but sweet :)

..wanna make you smile whenever you're sad..
he will try his best not to upset his woman.. if she sad, whether because of him or because anybody else, he will try his best to make her smile again.. he will do anything just to see his woman's smile.. become sunshine after the rain for his woman.. beacuse he knows, rainbow is beautiful :)

..i'll get your medicine when your tummy aches..
shows his affection, his careness.. he doesn't want his woman sick.. and if she does sick, he will take care of her.. and that's exactly what sick people need, huh? careness.. because we sick also because we don't care enough to our body, at that time..

..give you my coat when you were cold..
shows that the man will protect her, will sacrifice for her.. more concern to his woman than him himself..

..even let you hold the remote control..
it shows that the man isn't selfish.. he even let his woman decide what to watch.. not arrogant, not otoriter, and not selfish.. :)

..all i wanna do is grows old with you..
what could i say about this line? it's just beautiful.. no words can more explain it. how sweet is that someone want to grow old with you? want to see your wrinkle, want to see your breast get down, want to see your fat, want to see your hair loss, want to see your hair becoming white.. ahhh...

the song is just so sweet.. and has very deep meaning.. i love it :) hope someday someone will sing it to me, down on his knees, and beg me for becoming his wife, for grows old with him... aaaaahhhhhhhh... *it's so sweet only by imagining it* ;p

adam sandler's movie isn't only funny, but also romantic.. just like a line that i love from click movie..

woman: will you still love me in the morning?
man: forever and ever, baby..
:)

grace

"Allah is the one who knows everyhing.. Allah is the one who creates us.. a creator knows what's the best for what he create.. so does Allah.. Allah knows the best.. maybe at that time, you couldn't see it.. but as the time goes by, you will see.. and you will be much much graceful for your way.."

that's right.. Allah knows the best.. maybe you don't like it, but somehow what you don't like is the best for you, if only you knew..

i've connected to my past college friends via bbm.. when i see how are they now, i just feel graceful.. how hard they work are.. my friend, a woman, works in a mine industry, somewhere far away.. far from Jakarta.. in her pict, she wears a helmet, just like a worker in mine industry.. sits in a tractor.. i just can't imagine if i were her.. can I pass it? am I strong enough?

meanwhile, here, in bogor, at first, i used to grumpy.. i want in jakarta, not in bogor.. here, in this so comfortable place, i used to got sick.. if i were her, what would i be?

eventhough it has been my very very old dream, it has became my inspiration, my all inspiration.. my spirit.. i wrote it big in all my books, that i have to study hard, stay focus, keep my spirit on, so i will reach it.. my dream college..

Allah has given me a chance.. chance to reach my dream.. i'm so graceful for it.. so happy, so excited.. but Allah also knows, that it isn't the best for me, i won't suit with it.. so Allah guided me to go out of there..

i accepted in D3 majority, something that out of my expectation.. i was registered to D1 majority at first.. and if only i was accepted in D1, i wouldn't take it.. but Allah said different..

subhanallah.. how great what Allah has given me.. how much.. and still i'm not realize it.. i didn't graceful much... ;(

Allah..
thank's for everything..
thank's for loving me..
please, always stays with me.. always guides me.. to the right path.. to become better.. to become closer to you..

Alhamdulillah
:)

:)

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betapa piciknya saya.. selama ini hanya menulis tentang cinta, cinta, dan cinta..


cinta memang penting.. cinta yang mendasari semuanya ada.. tapi, apakah hanya cinta kepada pasangan yang penting?


cinta kepada Allah dan rasulNya itulah yang terpenting..

cinta kepada orangtua..

cinta kepada sesama manusia..

cinta kepada anak..

cinta kepada suami..


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baru2 ini, saya mengalami suatu kejadian.. yang membuat saya terhenti , termangu, dan berpikir.. membuat saya kembali ke keinginan di 2007 silam.. keinginan yang sering datang, namun sering pergi lagi.. keinginan yang tak pernah bertahan, tergerus oleh nafsu dunia dan berbagai ketakutan.. keinginan yang hingga kini belum terealisasi..

Berhijab adalah suatu proses panjang dalam memantapkan hati. Bukan siap dulu baru berhijab namun hijabkanlah diri kita sendiri dan nantinya hati kita juga akan ‘terhijabi’. Karena sejatinya, kita tidak akan pernah merasa siap kalau kita tidak melakukannya terlebih dulu.

tulisan itu saya dapatkan dari suatu blog muslimah.. isi blognya luar biasa.. pemikiran2nya jenius.. dan pada cerita itu, saya merasa punya kemiripan dengan si penulis cerita..

selama ini, saya bilang belum siap..
tapi kapankah saya akan siap? bagaimana kalau kesiapan itu tak akan pernah datang?

layakkanlah dirimu untuk dicintai, maka kamu akan dicintai..

layakkah saya untuk dicintai lelaki yang baik, bila saya tidak baik?
layakkah saya untuk dicintai lelaki setia, bila saya tidak setia?

berubahlah..
untuk sesuatu yang lebih baik.
mantapkanlah hatimu..
demi mencari ridhoNya..
kamu pasti bisa..
segala nikmat yang telah Allah beri padamu,
maka nikmat yang manakah yang kamu dustakan?


 semangat, Herina :)